OK, this just needs to be said- in response to those girls who are clearly NOT Clever. I was having an adult beverage at my favorite local and there were women EVERYWHERE. Now, normally this would be vastly unappealing to me- but when I am afforded the opportunity to observe behavior- it’s fantastic.
So, the two women next to me were dressed to kill- and I don’t mean hunt animals. They were on the hunt no doubt- no equivocation. These were not the ladies who exploded from a supermodel bomb, nor were they of the sensible-shoe-and-attire variety either. However, they did send a very clear message and I’d like to spell it out for my male readers.
I could see the gentleman at the end of the bar observing for a while- likely formulating an approach. I was proud of him for taking his time- I could see he was calculating.
When he finally did make his way- both women anxiously turned to him and after determining he was not of interest- one of them said “I’m sorry, I’m just here to visit with my girlfriend- not to get hit on.”
Two bold-faced lies in that statement. If you wanted to “visit with your girlfriend,” unmolested, you’d have stayed in (and not worn a bev nap for a top- see above pic). With Clever Girls- who you are with is ALWAYS more important than where you are. Second lie- intimating they don’t want to get hit on.
What she really meant is “I am looking to meet someone, but it’s not you.” I found her rude and offensive. Men generally don’t have to deal with being approached by women tirelessly, however, if you continuously base your options on looks and nothing more- the chances of you EVER meeting anyone up to par are slim.
What happens after someone meets your physical standards? Is it possible they might also fulfill what you desire in a man? I have a reputation for dating men who are what most women would find not very attractive. This is because I realized two things at a young age- no one was asking me out, so if someone did, I vowed to go (unless they appeared to have escaped from prison or were decidedly NOT Clever). Once I started accepting those dates, I realized what was truly important to me in a man and looks were not even in the top five. Sense of humor, confidence, gentility, intelligence and ambition.
So, the point to all of that is: While there are men who are the whole package- they are as rare as a pink diamond. So, the best idea for Clever Girls is to do some excavation before you toss out what could be a perfect gem.